Originally Posted by ksanders
Back to the original subject.... To The OP and any of the “Dreamers” out there
DO NOT pressure your significant other into a lifestyle choice that they do not want, especially something as big as full or part time living aboard.
DO NOT pressure your significant other into a financial purchase that affects your lifestyle in other ways due to its cost.
If you fail to heed this advice you might find yourself going it alone. IF you want to be in a relationship you NEED to take into consideration your significant others desires and goals.
YES, you only get this one shot at life, but the same goes for your partner. If she (or he) does not want to cruise full time and “live” on a boat that is their decision to make, and theirs alone. You need to communicate with your partner in life and make arrangements that accommodate their needs. That might mean deciding to cruise or boat alone. That might mean choosing a different lifestyle. It might even mean deciding that the two of you are not compatible.
The big thing is that you need to be upfront with those discussions.
Wifey B: Very well written, Kevin. If you win through pressure, you really will have lost. That kind of win isn't worth it.
I feel for couples whose interests don't match up. If it's small things that take a day here or there, no big deal, but something like RV'ing or Boating or Travel in general or living in the city or country, it's a real challenge.
And that's also why we have terms like "irreconcilable differences" and one really needs to think of what things are worth ending up there.