In the past we have had twin engine boats that cruise at some speed above our last two boats, which have been 34' single engine trawlers. 8 MPH is our speed these days and we are very happy with it. However, most friends that have gone out with us become disenchanted quickly at our speed. We have tried telling them to relax and just enjoy being out there. This has not worked well. We are now at the point that we only invite other "trawler people". Is this the normal situation?
Wifey B: As a guest I'd never let you know it was anything but perfect and, although l absolutely don't like going slow, I'd find a way to make it fun. Honestly, I don't think so much of friends who made their disenchantment into an issue and made it less enjoyable for you. We've never had an ungracious guest.
We take lots of friends and while we don't go 6-8 knots, we do some long crossings that would bore many people, like 50 hours or so in a row on the water. We tell our friends the plans and different ones choose to join us for different things, different type scenery. Most are using vacation time so want to match up to what they enjoy most.
I don't know the nature of your friends. Maybe they have limited time to be out and feel like it's wasting away while going slow. Whatever it is, the solution for them is simple, don't come again, and for you is simple, don't invite them again. There are plenty of friends, family and acquaintances who will love being your guests aboard.
As to the talk of getting away from people, not my idea of how I like things. We go alone sometimes, but I love having fun with our friends. We also discuss stops along the way and things we want to see and sometimes we'll go separately and other times together. Some times we'll also see things not top on our list with them and they'll see things that might not excite them with us. You know what, though? We all will enjoy it and often what one wasn't excited about turns out to be great.
