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Old 05-17-2016, 11:23 AM   #21
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Jferg,

There is some really good advice posted above. I have had boats of varying size now for almost 10 years. I recently made the jump to a trawler and I'm working on my anxieties just like you. Coming into the dock used to make me not sleep the night before. I've only done it a hand full of times now, but it has gotten easier. Everything else will come with practice and use. That was great advice about getting some instruction from an experienced skipper.

Please don't throw in the towel just yet. We've all been where you are. Keep us posted, because we all want to see you succeed and enjoy your boat.

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Old 05-17-2016, 11:25 AM   #22
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Hmmmm....One post and he's gone. Sleeping possibly?
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Old 05-17-2016, 11:31 AM   #23
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Hmmmm....One post and he's gone. Sleeping possibly?
Or he got the answer he needed and politely closed the door behind him.
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Old 05-17-2016, 12:08 PM   #24
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Maybe he's just a believer in Clint Eastwood's philosophy..."A man's gotta know his limitations."
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Old 05-17-2016, 12:23 PM   #25
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To the OP, it would help us help you if we knew what the issues are.
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Old 05-17-2016, 12:29 PM   #26
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Old 05-17-2016, 07:09 PM   #28
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Next, your yard will go to Sh*t. Who has time for yard work when you go to the boat every weekend?
Man, you're not kidding. Mine sure did.

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Finally, you will need to adjust your income and budget priorities. It will take some time, but you will need to manage your money and steer most of it to your boat because no matter how expensive you think owning a boat is, I guarantee you... it is TWICE that in reality.

HOWEVER... EVERY BIT OF IT IS WORTH IT!!!!
For the first year I remember thinking 'Oh god, what did I do?? I hope I did the math right... I hope I can actually afford this...' every time I pulled into the fuel dock.
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Old 05-17-2016, 09:00 PM   #29
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The first time I took my 36 out it felt like I was running an aircraft carrier. As others have said, it got smaller fast. In less than a year I was completely comfortable single handing it. Give it a little time.
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Old 05-17-2016, 09:04 PM   #30
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This poor new guy is going to log back in and be shocked to see over 30 replies
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Old 05-17-2016, 09:57 PM   #31
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At least it's not, "Hey I just got married and now I'm having second thoughts..." One can always sell the boat.
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Old 05-18-2016, 01:38 AM   #32
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At least it's not, "Hey I just got married and now I'm having second thoughts..." One can always sell the boat.
There is that...although, as I'm finding out now...the buying always goes quicker than the selling bit...

But to the OP if he comes back on, we have thoroughly enjoyed the 14 years we have had our Clipper (CHB) 34, so hang in there...
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Old 05-18-2016, 01:04 PM   #33
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Great discussion even without the OP.

I've recently made the plunge from outboard, trailered fishing boats to a 43 Mikelson. I've had anxiety about the purchase, mainly as regards my ability to spend enough time to properly maintain and use the boat. My solution is to begin simplifying my life-

I sold a collector car that I rarely drove, though I did enjoy polishing it and looking at it longingly. That's one less mechanical device to maintain, insure, pay taxes on, etc.

I've been raising beef cattle in a small way for 20 years. I don't make much money at it, and my kids are out of the house, so I have much less need for 400 lbs. of grass-fed beef per year. There's also the hassle of feed and water when I leave town. And they only get out of their fencing when I'm out of town. So, my next simplification is selling the four cow/calf pairs that I own now.

At age 53, I've concluded that I can only maintain and enjoy so many toys. If you're already maxed out with work/family/church/civic activities,etc., and you add another time commitment, some facet of your life will suffer.
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Old 05-18-2016, 01:07 PM   #34
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At age 53, I've concluded that I can only maintain and enjoy so many toys. If you're already maxed out with work/family/church/civic activities,etc., and you add another time commitment, some facet of your life will suffer.
Excellent advice.
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Old 05-18-2016, 02:55 PM   #35
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I've been raising beef cattle in a small way for 20 years. I don't make much money at it, and my kids are out of the house, so I have much less need for 400 lbs. of grass-fed beef per year. There's also the hassle of feed and water when I leave town. And they only get out of their fencing when I'm out of town. So, my next simplification is selling the four cow/calf pairs that I own now.
Funny, I'm in the same boat Sold all my cows last fall for the same reason. Relaxing boat weekends are way more fun than chasing cows and fixing fences. I did, however, keep the Porsche...
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Old 05-18-2016, 06:15 PM   #36
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Old 05-18-2016, 06:39 PM   #37
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With our boat,there are three levels of projects:

1. Need to get done
2. Like to get done
3. Eventually get to it

Most of ours are #2's and appearance related. If it is floating and runs, much of everything else is a #2 project, so relax and enjoy the journey.
Congratulations.

I also like the advice above. It's easy to feel overwhelmed, even for people boating far longer than we.
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Old 05-18-2016, 07:10 PM   #38
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In business we set a rule that no projects could exceed six months as they never finished and were overwhelming. That forces you to break them down into manageable jobs and get one done without being bothered by the next.
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Old 05-18-2016, 08:42 PM   #39
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Funny, I'm in the same boat Sold all my cows last fall for the same reason. Relaxing boat weekends are way more fun than chasing cows and fixing fences. I did, however, keep the Porsche...
Even funnier, the car that I sold was a Porsche....
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Old 05-18-2016, 09:28 PM   #40
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I'm not selling my Porsche...haha actually it is for sale.
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