Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
 
Old 04-20-2014, 03:55 PM   #1
Guru
 
BandB's Avatar
 
City: Fort Lauderdale
Country: USA
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 13,183
Spouses and partners

Is your spouse or partner as passionate about boating as you?

How much do they participate?

What aspects of boating do they like and what do they dislike?

What is their role in boating versus yours?

Does your interest of boating and their lesser interest ever create problems? Or the other way around?

Do the two of you follow the stereotypes or reverse them in some areas?

What is an extended cruise like together?
__________________
Advertisement

BandB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 04:24 PM   #2
TF Site Team
 
ksanders's Avatar
 
City: SEWARD ALASKA
Country: USA
Vessel Name: LISAS WAY
Vessel Model: BAYLINER 4788
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 3,956
My wife of 20+ years is not passionate about boating at all.

She is a creature of habit, and as such does not look upon new adventures like I do.

That said, there is a side of her that longs for the adventure, thats why she choose to marry a guy like me, as opposed to someone less adventurous.

She participates in boating, in helping to choose the boat, and to go with me. While onboard she drives the boat frequently, and takes part in all of the aspects that boating entails except maintenance. Thats my job. I keep the boat in tip top shape, and she wants no part in that. Its the same way around the house. She does not use tools regularly and has expressed no desire to learn. When I have asked about that in the past she says thats why she has a man around.

My wife loves to fish. Thats her favorite part of boating. She does not like big waves.

I've had several major hobbies in my adult life. I'm for example a Float rated pilot, and kept my plane at our home for years, exploring Alaskas back country. Boating is the hobby that seems to have stuck with me.

It has caused more than a little trouble for us over the years. Boats take not only money, they take time. The money part has caused her some heartache over the years, but not that much. Her problem is time. Time spent maintaining, or even on the boat is time not spent doing things around the house, or even just being at the house. We have a lakefront home with a dock in our yard and all the lake stuff, boats, jet skis, etc. Alaska summers are preciously short so she wants to enjoy our home. Ocean boating takes away from that.

Our typical trip is 3-4 days away from the harbor. We boat with our four dogs so we haven't taken any extended trips longer than that together. Boating in our part of the world is wilderness boating. We don't go see towns because there are only a couple of them, we go anchor off and enjoy the wilderness.

I will say that my wife is starting to see extended cruising in her future. She mentioned this last week how we need to take the boat south either this fall or next fall and use it as a base to play in warmer latitudes. She has finally figured out that we have a second home that we can position anywhere we want to along a coast, and move it at will. She isn't ready to lock up the house for the winter yet but she is wanting to try a month or so onboard and see how it works out. Being basically stuck inside for 5 months of the year is wearing on both of us, especially when she reads articles in Passagemaker like the one she read about the California Delta.

Part of this change in her accepting cruising longer term might be me though. I, in as nice and loving way that I can, have told her that I'm not going to grow old sitting in my house for 5 months out of the year, trapped. I have to go see things, to explore...Someplace warm.

I've given her all the options. We have a boat the size of an apartment. I've taken her to look at large motorhomes. We've talked about buying a second home somewhere like Hawaii, or the lower 48 and even moving out of Alaska.

We love our lakefront life. Its hard to describe to someone that's never lived it, but it is a different life. One thats hard to give up. We've lived on our lake for 19 years.

Exploring will probably be a winter time thing for us, and I'm good with that.
__________________

__________________
Kevin Sanders
Bayliner 4788
Seward, Alaska
www.mvlisasway.com
ksanders is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 04:34 PM   #3
Guru
 
Egregious's Avatar
 
City: Sunset Beach, NC
Country: USA
Vessel Name: Polly P.
Vessel Model: Monk 36
Join Date: Feb 2010
Posts: 554
Quote:
Originally Posted by BandB View Post
Is your spouse or partner as passionate about boating as you?
Quote:
How much do they participate?
It takes two people to handle all the work that needs to be done. It is kinda subjective.

Quote:
What aspects of boating do they like and what do they dislike?
She loves everything except very rough conditions. I don't like them myself.

Quote:
What is their role in boating versus yours?
I do most of the driving. She relieves me when I need it. I'm slowly teaching her to drive confidently, but that means never putting her in a scary situation. She has run us aground and I am so proud! She navigates. I handle radio communications. I keep the outside clean, she keeps the inside clean. I work on the mechanical stuff. She handles the ships log.

Quote:
Does your interest of boating and their lesser interest ever create problems? Or the other way around?
No way man. She is cannot wait for our next cruise. She looks at boats on Yachtworld.com and she wants us to move closer to our boat so we can do more boating.

Quote:
Do the two of you follow the stereotypes or reverse them in some areas?
Not sure what the stereotypes are, but yes I check the oil and she fixes sandwiches. We are both happy with our roles. If we were to take a year long cruise I think the roles would shift somewhat with me doing more of her stuff and she doing more of mine. I think the goal is to get to where we both can do everything as well as the other.

Quote:
What is an extended cruise like together?
With us and our two dogs? Awesome. Loving every minute!
Egregious is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 04:34 PM   #4
Guru
 
Portuguese's Avatar
 
City: Salvador - BA
Country: Brazil
Vessel Name: Rainha Jannota
Vessel Model: Curruira 46
Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 662
Send a message via MSN to Portuguese
MY wife of 38 years is my best and strongest motivation.
We have been dreaming with our boat, soon to be launched, since we got married. When we were both teenagers and far from thinking about marriage, we use to go out and sail in my FIL’s boat. It was a 33’ South African Orient 33 sailboat.
When we started to put our ideas about Rainha Jannota together, she immediately volunteered to take care of the electrical systems as she knows that I hate de damn thing. She is also a fishing woman and for 6 years held the Latin America Sailfish Record for 20lbs line. We split any other tasks in a boat, and we love to have people visiting.
Yesterday we were having a conversation and she was telling me that as soon as the boat launches, she will stay there for at least 6 months, far from home.
That’s how much she loves boating.
__________________
Now retired and cruising in calm waters
https://www.flickr.com/photos/rainha_jannota/
Portuguese is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 04:38 PM   #5
Guru
 
BandB's Avatar
 
City: Fort Lauderdale
Country: USA
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 13,183
Quote:
Originally Posted by ksanders View Post
My wife of 20+ years is not passionate about boating at all.

She is a creature of habit, and as such does not look upon new adventures like I do.

That said, there is a side of her that longs for the adventure, thats why she choose to marry a guy like me, as opposed to someone less adventurous.

She participates in boating, in helping to choose the boat, and to go with me. While onboard she drives the boat frequently, and takes part in all of the aspects that boating entails except maintenance. Thats my job. I keep the boat in tip top shape, and she wants no part in that. Its the same way around the house. She does not use tools regularly and has expressed no desire to learn. When I have asked about that in the past she says thats why she has a man around.

My wife loves to fish. Thats her favorite part of boating. She does not like big waves.

I've had several major hobbies in my adult life. I'm for example a Float rated pilot, and kept my plane at our home for years, exploring Alaskas back country. Boating is the hobby that seems to have stuck with me.

It has caused more than a little trouble for us over the years. Boats take not only money, they take time. The money part has caused her some heartache over the years, but not that much. Her problem is time. Time spent maintaining, or even on the boat is time not spent doing things around the house, or even just being at the house. We have a lakefront home with a dock in our yard and all the lake stuff, boats, jet skis, etc... and Alaska summers are preciously short so she wants to enjoy our home. Ocean boating takes away from that.

Our typical trip is 3-4 days away from the harbor. We boat with our four dogs so we haven't taken any extended trips longer than that together. Boating in our part of the world is wilderness boating. We don't go see towns because there are only a couple of them, we go anchor off and enjoy the wilderness.

I will say that my wife is starting to see extended cruising in her future. She mentioned this last week how we need to take the boat south either this fall or next fall and use it as a base to play in warmer latitudes. She has finally figured out that we have a second home that we can position anywhere we want to along a coast, and move it at will. She isn't ready to lock up the house an for the winter yet but she is wanting to try a month or so onboard and see how it works out. Being basically stuck inside for 5 months of the year is wearing on both of us, especially when she reads articles in Passagemaker like the one she read about the California Delta.
Great post. A couple of things hit me. In both talking and reading, I'm struck by how many women really love fishing.

Also, the thought of it as a second home that can be relocated. I think many find keeping their boat in warmer climates but still spending some time at home works for them. And also the length of time away that is right varies by individual. Better to break with trips home if that keeps it enjoyable. We've found 6 weeks is normally our comfort time, although for Alaska we will be gone two months at one time. We miss our friends and "adopted family". We love being on the water but we also love being home and time with them. Typically we might cruise 6 weeks, home 3, cruise a month, home 2 weeks, cruise 6 weeks, home 3, cruise 8 weeks, home 4, cruise a month, home a month. Our pattern fits somewhat like that. Also, while Christmas in an exotic warm location sounds great, we make sure we're home for the holidays. We just have to share them with those special to us.
BandB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 05:19 PM   #6
Guru
 
BandB's Avatar
 
City: Fort Lauderdale
Country: USA
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 13,183
To answer my own questions.

We share the passion equally and all about it. We went to Maritime School together, we have been trained by Captain's together and we'll continue to upgrade our skills.

Now, I know this will be a horrible thing to many here, but maintenance of engines and other equipment we also do equally. Neither one of us does it at all. We don't enjoy it and would rather spend the time if we had to doing something in our professions to make money and pay someone else to do it. We want to enjoy cruising and we would not enjoy working on the boat at all.

For us boating has never been an issue. Our thoughts are just so nearly identical. We did have to figure out how long we would enjoy being away from home at a time and it's evolved to 6 weeks, maximum of 2 months. Short time home and then back on the water. We spend about 240 days a year cruising and another 40 or so boating at home on day or overnight trips. Last year we covered over 19,000 nautical miles on the water.

We love to explore. Explore everywhere and everything. We like the big city, we like the end of the road to nowhere. We love to see the history, the beauty of different areas. Don't miss any aquariums or lighthouses ever or any wildlife areas. We also love to see art and artists and artisans in different places. We plan together, but we never force ourselves into sticking to a schedule. We also don't try to see too much per day or everything in a port that we know we can come back to. We want to always have more there to see. On the other hand when we cruise somewhere like Alaska that we might not get back to we'll be more thorough. There is no end to the places we'd like to see sometime. We have zero interest in sightseeing by car or by plane, just by boat. Don't put many miles on our cars.

Main reason we drive three times or so per year to NC where we lived is an orphanage that we got very close to and kids there who we just adore. Also Christmas day after seeing them we always drive to Myrtle Beach to be with our parents and sister. Yes, our parents. I'll explain while she sits reading this and giggling. Our birth parents are now deceased and sadly were never persons we could think of in positive terms. But our first time vacationing together we met at a hotel in Myrtle Beach and the girl working the front desk was wonderful as were her parents who owned it. We became close. They were the only three we had with us for our wedding later. And to us they are our parents. We chose the best there are. And our sister is about to have a child making us an aunt and uncle. We were both only children.

We don't fit stereotypes well, more two minds working with each other. Now, I was the shy inhibited one and she the open wild child but she opened me up in ways I never though could happen. I was a businessman, she was a teacher specializing in reading programs, starting with elementary but expanding to all levels.

As to rough water and conditions, we are both respectful of it but not scared of moderately rough conditions and we just accept them rather than talking about an awful day. Sort of like a day at the rodeo or something.

Fishing was mentioned and we do very little on our own but occasionally go out with friends and also in some areas with guides, like Lake Okeechobee when we were there.

Sailing, we're too lazy to do. But we enjoy being on a sailboat if others are doing the work. Just day sailing. Chesapeake is our favorite of any sailing we've done.

Equal driving, equal docking, equal navigating. The one thing she does more than I do is calling ahead to marinas as we get near, changing plans with marinas if necessary, and talking to bridge tenders and lock masters. I still don't love calling people I don't love plus they will far more respond to her voice and tones.

Likes and dislikes. Like all except maintenance. True for us both. We also prefer marinas to anchorages although occasionally anchor. Anchor more during the day than overnight.

Other hobbies. Number one is music which we both love. We sing and she plays keyboard. And business is now a hobby. I was going to retire, then just couldn't go completely cold turkey so small business, little time required, watching those I mentor grow and run it incredibly well. And her hobby is still helping with reading programs.

How will boating evolve? We don't anticipate major changes until age and health require. At one time we might have anticipated no land home but then we made too many friends who are now like family to us.

We don't dive and friends keep telling us we most learn. We're great swimmers so would be natural, just not sure being under water is our thing.

We both love reading books of other cruisers and their trips. We often read together, both with our kindles and the same book loaded. Fortunately we read about the same speed.

The amount of time we spend together astonishes most people and would not work for most couples. That's one thing people face cruising but we do things so together whether on land or sea that it's not an issue for us. We don't run to opposite ends of the boat for alone time. To us alone time simply means the two of us.

Oh when cruising we do try to stay in shape and not just with all the walking. You can spend a lot of time sitting on a boat if not careful. We do even occasionally play tennis when cruising or play basketball. We'll find somewhere for them and just go do it.
BandB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 08:29 PM   #7
Guru
 
ancora's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 3,490
My wife of 45 years is equally passionate about boating. We use our boat 12 months of the year and spend so much time at the yacht club people think we are live-aboards. My wife pilots the boat on log races ( I can't hold a course) and is actually the vice commodore of our racing association (even though, I hold the title.) Raft-ups are her biggest interest as it gives her a chance to be an on-the-water hostess. She dislikes being out on the ocean with swells over five feet but does not complain.
Our roles are equal as I spend as much time in the galley as she does (I love to cook) however, I am the bartender.
We both look forward to our annual cruise to Catalina Island with members of our yacht club. The wife loves to go harbor hopping up the coast and stopping at a different yacht club every night for dinner and shopping at the yacht club store. (Sometimes a free guest slip ain't all that free.)
ancora is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 08:38 PM   #8
Guru
 
BandB's Avatar
 
City: Fort Lauderdale
Country: USA
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 13,183
Quote:
Originally Posted by ancora View Post
My wife of 45 years is equally passionate about boating. We use our boat 12 months of the year and spend so much time at the yacht club people think we are live-aboards. My wife pilots the boat on log races ( I can't hold a course) and is actually the vice commodore of our racing association (even though, I hold the title.) Raft-ups are her biggest interest as it gives her a chance to be an on-the-water hostess. She dislikes being out on the ocean with swells over five feet but does not complain.
Our roles are equal as I spend as much time in the galley as she does (I love to cook) however, I am the bartender.
We both look forward to our annual cruise to Catalina Island with members of our yacht club. The wife loves to go harbor hopping up the coast and stopping at a different yacht club every night for dinner and shopping at the yacht club store. (Sometimes a free guest slip ain't all that free.)
What a wonderful situation. Sound like us in another 30 years.
BandB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 09:09 PM   #9
Guru
 
Moonstruck's Avatar
 
City: Hailing Port: Charleston, SC
Country: USA
Vessel Name: Moonstruck
Vessel Model: Sabre 42 Hardtop Express
Join Date: Nov 2008
Posts: 7,854
Where to start? To lose a cruising partner of 35 years, and then have another with no boating experience is a learning experience for both. People are different, and you have to be sensitive to those differences. I feel so fortunate to have another great cruising partner. Does she care for cruising as much as I? No. but I try to tailor our cruises to make certain she gets to do what she enjoys.
__________________
Don on Moonstruck
Sabre 42 Hardtop Express & Blackfin 25 CC
When cruising life is simpler, but on a grander scale (author unknown)
http://moonstruckblog.wordpress.com/
Moonstruck is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 09:59 PM   #10
Guru
 
BandB's Avatar
 
City: Fort Lauderdale
Country: USA
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 13,183
Quote:
Originally Posted by Moonstruck View Post
Where to start? To lose a cruising partner of 35 years, and then have another with no boating experience is a learning experience for both. People are different, and you have to be sensitive to those differences. I feel so fortunate to have another great cruising partner. Does she care for cruising as much as I? No. but I try to tailor our cruises to make certain she gets to do what she enjoys.
Can't imagine how difficult that was but will tell you how much I admire you for continuing to teach and learn and find another great cruising partner. Something tells me you've made each a wonderful partner and that last sentence might go a long way toward saying why as you find ways to make it enjoyable.
BandB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 10:23 PM   #11
Guru
 
Scary's Avatar
 
City: Walnut Grove Ca
Country: USA
Vessel Name: Cary'D Away
Vessel Model: Hatteras 48 LRC
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 884
Life has a way of throwing curve balls

My cruising partner of 34 years was killed in a car wreck while driving us to our boat in Seattle. We were in the process of moving the boat into Canada to begin cruising full time. In the past we had raced sailboats, climbed mountains, skied mountains, water skied, motorcycled, built a business together and raised a family. She was extremely goal oriented, I am more into the journey. She was game to do anything I wanted to do, it was really up to me to make it safe. She had total confidence in my ability to handle whatever came up. We had a lot of neat experiences. She never questioned my competence.
My new partner loves boating but hasn't shared the same kind of experiences and adventure. Cruising the Delta is an adventure for her, running at night frightening, waves in the ocean something that are life threatening. The yacht scene however great fun as well as the social aspects of boating. She likes the cooking and sleeping aboard, helps with the cleaning, loves being on the water. Maintenance and repairs my job. That hasn't changed. The new gal gets to run the boat once away from the dock. I don't think she will ever feel confident docking 66,000 lb, however she is pretty comfortable at the helm. Navigation will be up to me at least in the near future. Fortunately my daughter is very competent and having her along provides a great deal of confidence for her. After all if no one else seems concerned maybe its ok. The goal at least for me is to develop confidence in her and trust in me so that we can cruise together in remote locations alone. I'm just taking it one trip at a time exposing her slowly. Hopefully we get there before I'm to old to do it.
Scary is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 11:03 PM   #12
Guru
 
O C Diver's Avatar
 
City: Fort Myers, FL... Summers in Crisfield, MD
Country: USA
Vessel Name: Slow Hand
Vessel Model: Cherubini Independence 45
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 4,822
My wife hasn't been to the boat I purchased in January. I've already put 1,500 miles on it. Hoping she will give it a try later this summer. Hoping I can spark an interest with a weekend in a secluded anchorage with some good kayaking. Ambivalent would be a step in the right direction. Wish me luck.

Ted
__________________
Blog: mvslowhand.com
I'm tired of fast moves, I've got a slow groove, on my mind.....
I want to spend some time, Not come and go in a heated rush.....
"Slow Hand" by The Pointer Sisters
O C Diver is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 11:57 PM   #13
Guru
 
BandB's Avatar
 
City: Fort Lauderdale
Country: USA
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 13,183
Quote:
Originally Posted by Scary View Post
My cruising partner of 34 years was killed in a car wreck while driving us to our boat in Seattle. We were in the process of moving the boat into Canada to begin cruising full time. In the past we had raced sailboats, climbed mountains, skied mountains, water skied, motorcycled, built a business together and raised a family. She was extremely goal oriented, I am more into the journey. She was game to do anything I wanted to do, it was really up to me to make it safe. She had total confidence in my ability to handle whatever came up. We had a lot of neat experiences. She never questioned my competence.
My new partner loves boating but hasn't shared the same kind of experiences and adventure. Cruising the Delta is an adventure for her, running at night frightening, waves in the ocean something that are life threatening. The yacht scene however great fun as well as the social aspects of boating. She likes the cooking and sleeping aboard, helps with the cleaning, loves being on the water. Maintenance and repairs my job. That hasn't changed. The new gal gets to run the boat once away from the dock. I don't think she will ever feel confident docking 66,000 lb, however she is pretty comfortable at the helm. Navigation will be up to me at least in the near future. Fortunately my daughter is very competent and having her along provides a great deal of confidence for her. After all if no one else seems concerned maybe its ok. The goal at least for me is to develop confidence in her and trust in me so that we can cruise together in remote locations alone. I'm just taking it one trip at a time exposing her slowly. Hopefully we get there before I'm to old to do it.

Wifey B: God I'm impressed by you guys. Moving on after tragedy strikes. Getting another partner but not expecting her to be the same and taking it slow while she gets acquainted with boating. You're freaking damn incredible guys....all of you who have done this. I hope my man would do the same if something happened to him. Of course, if he didn't, I'd somehow kick his a... from wherever I was.
BandB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-20-2014, 11:59 PM   #14
Guru
 
BandB's Avatar
 
City: Fort Lauderdale
Country: USA
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 13,183
Quote:
Originally Posted by O C Diver View Post
My wife hasn't been to the boat I purchased in January. I've already put 1,500 miles on it. Hoping she will give it a try later this summer. Hoping I can spark an interest with a weekend in a secluded anchorage with some good kayaking. Ambivalent would be a step in the right direction. Wish me luck.

Ted
Wifey B: Has she had interest in the past? Have you asked her what kind of boating trip would interest her? If there's anything that would make her enjoy joining you more.

Wishing you luck. Can't force if she doesn't like it. Do you know what she dislikes? Just find whatever works for the two of you in your marriage.
BandB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-21-2014, 12:14 AM   #15
Art
Guru
 
Art's Avatar
 
City: SF Bay Area
Country: USA
Vessel Model: Tollycraft 34' Tri Cabin
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 7,986
TY BandB - This is a Fun Thread!

My wife loves boats and being on the water... be it ski boats, runabouts, row boats, Fountain ocean racers, or multi cabin pleasure cruisers. We both like sail boats too... but not at this stage of life... too much of a PIA - LOL! Neither one of us have ever had a second of upset stomach due to sea conditions. Albeit in my history I have oodles more coastal cruising than she. Linda loves to cook – thank God! I love to eat – pretty good BBQer too!

My Admiral likes to keep inside of all boats clean. We swim every chance we get. As Captain, I do vast majority of outside cleaning but she does not at all mind helping. Mechanics and other build-it/fix-it things are my domain, just like I/she want it. She will do items like screen repairs, curtain sewing/hanging... etc. If I or she calls for assistance on anything either of us will jump right in to help make it work.

For several years we’ve been relishing the SF Delta’s warm fresh waters and using our perfect sized/equipped Tolly as a getaway for long weekends doing short cruises, hanging on the hook, and relaxing/playing... during spring, summer, fall. Before Delta-Play we ran around in SF Bay. We’re heading to boat for a weekend this Thursday.

We have much family on shore and spend much, much time with them. As years pass we are contemplating renting out our primary house as well as our beach house. We would sell our beloved 34’ Tollycraft tri cabin and pick up a 50’ to 65’ for costal cruising. Alaska in summer, Mexico in winter, SF Bay/Delta as home base. Time will tell how this all works out. We are both fearless regarding change and adventure; what we do is what we want to do.

I handle the boat under all conditions; she will cruise straight if I request while I accomplish something. Docking ain't her thing! Tying dock line, putting out fenders, fending off our tow behind runabout with boat-hook... etc – is!

I’m currently working on a Big Business Opportunity; much of what my future holds for the next ten years may substantially pivot on its outcome.
Happy Boating Daze! – Art
Art is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-21-2014, 07:46 AM   #16
Guru
 
O C Diver's Avatar
 
City: Fort Myers, FL... Summers in Crisfield, MD
Country: USA
Vessel Name: Slow Hand
Vessel Model: Cherubini Independence 45
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 4,822
Quote:
Originally Posted by BandB View Post
Wifey B: Has she had interest in the past? Have you asked her what kind of boating trip would interest her? If there's anything that would make her enjoy joining you more.

Wishing you luck. Can't force if she doesn't like it. Do you know what she dislikes? Just find whatever works for the two of you in your marriage.
My wife suffers from sea sickness on much smaller than a cruise ship. Nothing short of dry land seems to help. Hoping that boating on flat water such as the Erie canal will avoid the sickness and spark an interest. In her 1st marriage, she has gone several times on cruise ships. My challenge is to bring as many of the comforts of home, without the motion of the ocean. I accept that a fair amount of my cruising will be solo. We have many differnt interests and tend to do our own thing. I spend 1 out of every 4 days on (boating) or in (scuba diving) the water. She is an avid football fan, 30 hours a week between TV and online from before preseason to the Super bowl. Currently she works in KY and I work in MD and live 7 months a year in FL. She will retire in 9 years. It's a very different marriage. I tell people we are friends on Facebook and get together most federal holidays.

Ted
__________________
Blog: mvslowhand.com
I'm tired of fast moves, I've got a slow groove, on my mind.....
I want to spend some time, Not come and go in a heated rush.....
"Slow Hand" by The Pointer Sisters
O C Diver is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-21-2014, 07:53 AM   #17
Guru
 
psneeld's Avatar
 
City: Avalon, NJ
Country: USA
Vessel Name: Freedom
Vessel Model: Albin 40
Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 15,928
My crew (girlfriend and dog...especially the dog) doesn't like anything more than ripples.....even the big sounds in Ga are tolerable most of the time if you pick the days.

Not a perfect way to travel by expensive trawler...but certainly if not on a tight schedule....you can go from NJ to the Keys and back and have more issues from wakes than waves.

Certainly some stretches are more interesting and smoother than others and near major modes of transportation. I think you could make it work with the slow immersion method...I wish you luck as my biggest hurdle coming up will be crossing the stream.
psneeld is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-21-2014, 09:25 AM   #18
Guru
 
BandB's Avatar
 
City: Fort Lauderdale
Country: USA
Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 13,183
Quote:
Originally Posted by psneeld View Post
My crew (girlfriend and dog...especially the dog) doesn't like anything more than ripples.....even the big sounds in Ga are tolerable most of the time if you pick the days.

Not a perfect way to travel by expensive trawler...but certainly if not on a tight schedule....you can go from NJ to the Keys and back and have more issues from wakes than waves.

Certainly some stretches are more interesting and smoother than others and near major modes of transportation. I think you could make it work with the slow immersion method...I wish you luck as my biggest hurdle coming up will be crossing the stream.
I'd suggest for some of those whose spouses have rough water issues to really consider stabilizers or paravanes if you don't have them.
BandB is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-21-2014, 09:26 AM   #19
Guru
 
O C Diver's Avatar
 
City: Fort Myers, FL... Summers in Crisfield, MD
Country: USA
Vessel Name: Slow Hand
Vessel Model: Cherubini Independence 45
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 4,822
Went from Ft Myers, FL to Crisfield, MD this month. Worst part of the trip was across a bay, Chesapeake bay. 3 to 4' with the occasional 5' to ring the boats bell, from Norfolk to Cape Charles (25 miles). That was after waiting in Norfolk for 3 days for a better forecast. I envision my wife showing up for the protected passages and deboating for the larger bodies of water. I think there is a lot of the ICW she would enjoy, the more remote undeveloped areas. See no reason to subject her to the areas where passage can be uncomfortable. I'm prepared to buy plane tickets and car rentals for her. Probably need to invest in Tracvision if I want her on the boat during football season.

Ted
__________________
Blog: mvslowhand.com
I'm tired of fast moves, I've got a slow groove, on my mind.....
I want to spend some time, Not come and go in a heated rush.....
"Slow Hand" by The Pointer Sisters
O C Diver is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-21-2014, 09:41 AM   #20
Guru
 
O C Diver's Avatar
 
City: Fort Myers, FL... Summers in Crisfield, MD
Country: USA
Vessel Name: Slow Hand
Vessel Model: Cherubini Independence 45
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 4,822
Quote:
Originally Posted by BandB View Post
I'd suggest for some of those whose spouses have rough water issues to really consider stabilizers or paravanes if you don't have them.
While they may be an improvement, I don't think you grasp the severity of the situation. No pitching; no rolling. I'm hoping boat wakes won't make her sick. Think cruise ship in 10 to 15 knot winds stable.

Ted
__________________

__________________
Blog: mvslowhand.com
I'm tired of fast moves, I've got a slow groove, on my mind.....
I want to spend some time, Not come and go in a heated rush.....
"Slow Hand" by The Pointer Sisters
O C Diver is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off





All times are GMT -5. The time now is 04:13 AM.


Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8 Beta 4
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0
Copyright 2006 - 2012