I used a few sources of data where people have measured anchor rode loading. One source I remember was:
Forces
Based on the numbers at that link, a 40 foot powerboat will approach the 3900 lb WLL of 5/16" G43 chain if angled 30* off the wind. Straight into the wind, it's just under 1650 lbs of pull. Assuming the boat sails around a bit at anchor but has a good snubber to absorb shock loads, the peak load is probably somewhere between the 2 values. Add in the effect of wind gradient (the wind pushing on the lower part of the hull will be somewhat less strong) and the force gets reduced even a little further. Any sea state will add to the force.
A heavier boat may have higher peak loads from sailing around, so in 60 kts I wouldn't be surprised if the peaks were in the 2500 - 3000 lb range for your boat.
Depending on what conditions you want to size for, 3/8" G43 chain isn't overkill, but it's also likely more than necessary. Another option would be to go for 5/16" G70 chain if it'll fit your windlass and chainwheel combo (the links are slightly longer than 5/16" G43, so it may not fit). 5/16" G70 gives a WLL of 4230, so a bit higher than the 3900 lbs of 5/16" G43. Still a good bit lower than the 5400 lb WLL of 3/8" G43 though. Some of the small difference from G43 to G70 is due to how the WLL is calculated. For most grades of chain, it's 1/4 of the breaking strength, but for some reason, G43 WLL is typically calculated at 1/3 breaking strength.
Edit: Dug up another source:
https://www.practical-sailor.com/sails-rigging-deckgear/the-load-on-your-rode
Based on the tested data in there from Robert Smith, if we assume a 50% addition for a high windage powerboat, that puts the load at 2250 lbs for a 42 foot boat in 60 kts. That further points to needing to be in hurricane territory before worrying about the strength of 5/16" G43 chain on a 40-ish foot boat.