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Old 06-07-2016, 04:39 AM   #21
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Old 06-07-2016, 05:57 AM   #22
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"Is this going to take some time before I feel confortable for cruising only?"

NOPE!

Most folks do longer days at doing stuff when retired than they ever did at work.

ENJOY or as the regimented used too say Carpe Diem.
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Old 06-07-2016, 06:48 AM   #23
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As they say....the hours are awesome but the pay sucks

After nine years retired, I still sometimes worry if "I timed it right". However, we stay so busy doing things we never planned on doing, that it simply doesn't matter. Having a partner that you want to be around 24/7 really helps. We have never been closer.

Kick back and enjoy. You have earned it!
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Old 06-07-2016, 10:06 AM   #24
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Having a partner that you want to be around 24/7 really helps. We have never been closer.
I think that probably is a huge factor for us. It gave us a chance to be together all the time and that is wonderful for us. We plan everything together. It's a shared time of anything we want. Plus we do have a large group of family/friends.

I think the biggest challenge for many is a change and reduction in social interaction. There was a group of people you spent time with, time talking to, every day and now you don't. You have to find a new group. Spouse, family, new friends, other boaters, but if you don't have that interaction there can be a big void in your life.
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I think the biggest challenge for many is a change and reduction in social interaction. There was a group of people you spent time with, time talking to, every day and now you don't. You have to find a new group. Spouse, family, new friends, other boaters, but if you don't have that interaction there can be a big void in your life.
I think that is a very good point. It would not be the first that would come to my mind so I am glad you mentioned it. I am a bit concerned about my wife on that score.

My wife hopes to retire in a year. I have another meeting with my financial advisor this week to go over the final numbers. After teaching for over 30 years, she has had it. Like a good athlete, she wants to retire while she is still at the top of her game and never feel that she is not doing a good job. Unfortunately, that means retiring about 4 years before she hits her full retirement benefits and a long time before she is eligible for SSI or Medicare.

I will need to keep working for another decade most likely, if my health holds out. So this means that she will have 10 years of not having me around to keep her company but she won't have the social interactions that work provides. I think she has plans for babysitting future grandkids. We will see.

Mentally and emotionally I could retire at any time. My profession has been great but I am not defined by it. I always find things that interest me and people that I find interesting. Financially, I have no choice. I have to keep working. It is a good thing that I enjoy it.
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I think that is a very good point. It would not be the first that would come to my mind so I am glad you mentioned it. I am a bit concerned about my wife on that score.

My wife hopes to retire in a year. I have another meeting with my financial advisor this week to go over the final numbers. After teaching for over 30 years, she has had it. Like a good athlete, she wants to retire while she is still at the top of her game and never feel that she is not doing a good job. Unfortunately, that means retiring about 4 years before she hits her full retirement benefits and a long time before she is eligible for SSI or Medicare.
Wifey B: As a former teacher, she'll not miss some aspects but really miss the kids. A lot of teachers retire a year to get retirement benefits then teach in a different district after that year, depending on the state and it's rules. There are cures though. Anywhere there are kids, preferably lots. Tutoring. Programs for reading. Group homes. Community centers.

She faces another challenge. She's younger than other retirees. All her friends and peers are working so not available to do things. You're working so not available. Time to do and no one to do with. That means finding some new groups of people to spend time with, probably mostly stay at home younger moms. Maybe new interests. Perhaps cooking courses or gardening. Reading groups.

Or even groups like college kids. Just people. Younger works out real well as they make you younger. Part time job at the theater or a small store.

She just needs to be prepared to work to fill her days with pleasure, not boredom..people, not solitude.
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"She just needs to be prepared to work to fill her days with pleasure, not boredom..people, not solitude".

This is important advice IMO. It was surprisingly hard for me to find things to do after I finished all my projects and honey-dos. Everyone else was working. I found myself drinking beer mid afternoon and figured I'd better get back to work. 😂
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Old 06-07-2016, 12:03 PM   #28
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"She just needs to be prepared to work to fill her days with pleasure, not boredom..people, not solitude".

This is important advice IMO. It was surprisingly hard for me to find things to do after I finished all my projects and honey-dos. Everyone else was working. I found myself drinking beer mid afternoon and figured I'd better get back to work. 😂
Wifey B: See, we're always doing together. But if one is and one isn't then sucks a bit. I don't think either of us would be very good at it without the other.
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Old 06-07-2016, 12:38 PM   #29
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Congratulations, I hope you enjoy your retirement as much as I have mine. The last day I worked was September 27, 2003 and two weeks later we took our Hatteras 48 LRC under the Golden Gate Bridge and turned left. Ended up cruising the coast of Mexico for 12 years, finally bringing Freedom home last summer. The experience was great, especially the 3 months in the Sea of Cortez. Long term cruising or not your boat will keep you busy and occupied. The only problem I find is that as one ages the practice of engine room "boat yoga" becomes more difficult. Sometimes I'm so busy that I wondered how I ever had time to work.
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Old 06-07-2016, 12:55 PM   #30
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Congratulations on your retirement, may your old job rest in peace.
Just remember
Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a well preserved body but, rather to skid in sideways, beer in one hand, cigar in the other, body thoroughly worn out and screaming WHOOO HOOO What a ride!!!
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Old 06-07-2016, 01:11 PM   #31
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Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a well preserved body but, rather to skid in sideways, beer in one hand, cigar in the other, body thoroughly worn out and screaming WHOOO HOOO What a ride!!!
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1952 I was born in Freeport.

In teens, I worked most boat yards along Woodcleft and Hudson.

Boated out of there and Merrick... in the 1950s, 60's.

Up in Penobscot Bay ME for beginning 70's; worked Maine Coast Shipbuilders.

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Old 06-07-2016, 02:44 PM   #32
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Lots has changed both on the streets and on the water. You probably wouldn't recognize most of it now. Several commercial fishing boats still leave from Woodcleft, but there are more party boats. Not this kind of party.
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Old 06-07-2016, 03:36 PM   #33
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Lots has changed both on the streets and on the water. You probably wouldn't recognize most of it now. Several commercial fishing boats still leave from Woodcleft, but there are more party boats. Not this kind of party.
Wifey B: One of the websites is partyboatcentral. They have the Freeport Princess and the Miss Freeport V.

Now the tabs at the top of the page are:

Cruises
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I was just wondering if you could combine two of those activities. After all the boat holds 150 and you may not need that much for one activity. I can see a Fishing Wedding. That's a Jeff Foxworthy kind of thing. How about a Party Cruise with no extra charge for Burial at Sea if required? For some of the parties I'm imagining seems like a natural segue.
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Congratulations on your retirement! I retired just one year ago and have so many projects to do around the house and boats I have to prioritize and plan what I'm going to do next and when. Add in time to go cruising and road trips to visit family and friends and sight seeing along the way and it's a pretty full life. I don't know how I had time for work! Take a deep breath and like many here have counseled, appreciate all you have and now you will have the time to fully enjoy it. Spend time with family and friends because none of us are getting any younger.

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Congrats, Fernando!! It appears you finished your new boat just in time! Well done.

I retired in Nov 2012, the day before my 55th birthday. I loved my dream job and was totally focused on my career for almost 39 years. My job was a perfect fit for me but I felt the need to enjoy retirement before health issues might grab the opportunity away from me. Like others have mentioned, I also wanted to go out on top of my game.

The first year was a period of transition for me. I knew I was retired, but my brain took a while to catch up. I would dream about flying and working...then I started wondering in my dreams, "Why am I working when I'm retired?" Finally the work dreams stopped and the boating dreams filled the void.

Flying didn't 'define' me but the aviation world was a huge part of my daily life. I'd go out on 4-5 day trips with a couple other crew members 2-3 times per month. We'd spend our daytime, meals and sometimes evening drinks together. We knew each other very well and I enjoyed the professionalism and the camaraderie. That was a big change for me. I miss the people more than the job, even though I absolutely LOVED my job.

For many men, meaningful work fulfills the inner need to provide for your loved ones. It took a while for me to get comfortable with the fact that I was now a consumer of my hard earned gains and no longer the provider. All my life I worked to grow my nest egg for this stage in life. Now I'm here.

Now, 3 1/2 years into retirement, I stay busy volunteering here and elsewhere, helping friends and making new friends. I had to set a daily quit time for myself (1600) so I wouldn't work into the dinner hour. I stick to a schedule that works for my wife and me...generally 0730 or 0800 rise, 2300 to bed. We each have our own interests that take us in different directions regularly so we have time together and time apart to pursue our passions. This has led to new friendships and expanded interests.

As I approach my summer cruising season, I feel like a kid in a candy store...excited with the upcoming adventures and proud of the improved state of my boat. Much has been upgraded over the past year and she's never been better, IMO. If I hadn't been retired, none of this would be possible.
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Old 06-07-2016, 08:06 PM   #36
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Thank you all for your input and best known opinions. All of you have valid points and once more, I have enriched my knowledge with your experiences. That's what friends are for!

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Follow your joy. It's probably your last chance. Retirement is like a renewed, perhaps wiser childhood without parents.

My most common nightmares now are being "unretired" and back in my former stressful job. Oh, the horror! Retired as soon as possible and don't regret it.
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Congratulations, Fernando. Thanks for taking us along on the building of your boat. I will never forget that trip down the mountain. Now, take us along on your cruises. I would like to see that wonderful bay where you are located. Carpe Diem!
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Had felt slightly guilty about spending lots of money on the "toy" with my something-90s father still looking over my shoulder. Nevertheless, he always asks if I'm still using the boat.



It's all his fault. He introduced me to sailboat racing in the Bay in the 60s.
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